Hello Little Munchkin,
What has been happening?Â Â ….. mmm Apple Pie
Long time no write for me.Â It’s been a busy week – swimming, sanding the back deck and reoiling, cooking apple pie (I’ve been meaning to do the pie for at least a year and I finally got to it on Sunday – and it was yum).
You: rolling, commando crawling at greater and greater speed, trying to swim, competently sitting-up, lots and lots of squawking.
Today’s Walking Adventure – Hot hot hot
Today is our car-less day.Â Your Dad has the car on Tuesdays and we are left to our own devices.Â We decided it was better for the environment and would work out that we just maintained a single car and then your Dad can taxi around a bit when he needs to for work and the like, apart from Tuesdays.Â Â We’ve always walked and cycled a lot, and it’s one of the reasons we bought our house in the inner city – so we could continue to do so.Â Â But today is particularly hot.Â It is 30.9 degrees celcius and 51% humidity.Â Not the hottest day by far, but hot enough if you’re walking around.Â Today was the first meeting of the year for my local group of the Australian Breastfeeding Association, so you and I walked there and back.Â And today I’m gonna write about it, ’cause I enjoy it so much and really get a lot out of it.Â And you enjoy it too – it’s a chance to interact with a bunch of other young kids.
Boobies are Us.
“Boobies are Us” is what your father affectionately refers to it as.Â Â He thinks it’s great and is really supportive of breastfeeding – he knows it is the best thing for you and unfortunately he can’t control it, so puts his energy into helping me.Â We’ve been out to the shop in our city to buy some things a few times and he has had some great input from the women working there and out the back in the State office.Â But I must admit I think he is still a little perplexed about what we actually do at the support group meetings.
I know it’s is jest, but the question,
“Do you all just get your boobs out?”
has come up!Â The answer?Â Yes, most of the women there do “get their boobs out” at some point to feed their child/children.Â Some discreetly, some less discreetly.Â Some babies, some toddlers.Â But not everyone.Â There is an older lady (perhaps in her fifties) who is our treasurer, whose children are well past the breastfeeding stage. Â Is everyone there a boob feeding nazi? No, definitely not.Â That’s one of the reasons I enjoy it so much – there is such a mix of people there.Â Yes, people there are obviously giving breastfeeding a go as that’s what it is: a breastfeeding support group.Â But do some of them use other forms of food too – you bet. Are all of them commited to feeding their babes by breastmilk until they are five? Of course not. Are some – yes, if that’s what their babes are after.Â It’s a mix.
Do dad’s go?Â Yes -Â not so many, but there have been a few at different meetings, often when their baby is young and they are there with their partner to get some input and support.
And what do we do??Â Well, most fortnights there is a topic for discussion, and we have an activity or prompts that the group leader has put together that we use to stimulate discussion and chats.Â The kids (of varied ages) all rollick around on the floor (it’s held in the playgroup space under a local church so there are lots of toys and it’s a safe area).Â The reason I enjoy it so much is that there is actual opinion, debate and experience about meaningful things discussed.Â Yes, most of it is breastfeeding-focussed, but a lot about the tribulations and challenges of raising children, and coping strategies, techniques and listening to each other.Â And it’s a very local group, so I then see a lot of the members around the traps when we are out and about.Â It makes me feel connected to you, my baby, and my area, and the community.Â Which is pretty important.Â ‘Cause my hormones still leave me up and down quite a bit.Â And I’m still adjusting to the major life change of having a baby and having to care for someone else 24/7.
Today’s topic was about toddlers.Â We discussed a range of topics such asÂ developmental milestones, separation anxiety, breastfeeding, eating, weaning, having a second child, me-time or mum-time, occupying and stimulating toddlers…Â It’s still school holidays, so there were lots of extra kids there today, and about 15 mums.And there were lots of opinions, lots of questions and lots of talking.Â Fun.Â Â You cracked-up and got a bit tired about and hour and a bit in, so we left early.
Just thought I’d write about one of the things we get up to during the day.Â An important thing.
I love my bf support group too. It feels so great to know other people out there also bf their children. Sometimes it’s hard when family doesn’t support you, everyone you see in the store is buying formula, ect. Sometimes I feel like I’m the only one who bf’s. I love reading about your experiences as well. I’m happy you enjoyed your meeting!
I find it really helpful also to hear about others’ experiences – even if they don’t end up happening to us I kind of am more ready/prepared and calm about the whole deal.
and thank-you for the lovely comments.